Now, I wont say that I am really old or even qualified to comment on life or the way human relationships work, but this has always fascinated me. I have always tried to learn something from other people's happiness or misery. What I have noticed so far is that the way men and women think are quite different. Now now, I know that this is like saying that the sun rises from the east. But this blog is supposed to be about my thoughts, remember ? :-) . I am just trying to draw a lil picture here, for the various phases of a relationship :
For lack of better names, we will call the guy as Y and the girl as X. (And not the vice versa because the naming is vaguely related to chromosomes)
The Starting phase
The Y Dude really, really likes our chic X. He tries to woo this chic by all possible ways he knows. His task becomes simpler if his job or college or daily routine somehow enables him to meet his lady of dreams. Nevertheless, he feels good and kind of energized and efficient if the girl interacts as well. Now here is what is going on through their minds after lets say around one month of chatting :
Y - Wow, I really, really like this girl. She seems to be responding well to me. Could she be the one? Could there possibly be something more to this .... OMG, I see my "window".
X - Hmmm, I like this guy. Finally I guess I have made a friend who is different then the others. I like the time spend with him. I like this guy because, there is not a pressure of relationship involved in this and he is not expecting anything from me. He is mature enough to understand that we can stay Just friends.
At this point in time, that sadist freak which we call god, is sitting up there and laughing his heart off.
To be continued ....
(I have a job to do, you know ... I do not make money writing blogs)
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(I have a job to do, you know ... I do not make money writing blogs)
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Alright folks ... m back ....
Jesus christ guys, so many requests to complete this post ... Am I that good :-) ??
well Anyways ....
Guy gets the Girl Phase
So after sometime of lingering on and bhao khoing (typically 2 to three months) , X gives in to Y.
Yipee !!!???
Well, so one would think (devilish grin from the sadist introduced in the earlier phase).
All that hunky dowry and cheesy stuff starts, I do not need to bore you with the details. For the ones who are desperately in the need of some boredom, rent some 70s bollywood flick mann .. Now, this is a really important phase, because Y is full of expectations ... the pressure of expectations is huge. At times (most of the cases) this pressure coupled with the MALE EGO is sooooo disasterous, that this is enuff to destroy the relationship in about three months. But still they hold on to each other, just because they think its too soon to let go.
The Dev.D Phase
One fine day X packs her bags and leaves. Y is like alright, I don't need her, I can live without her too. About 7 days down the line, Y wakes up :
"whoa ... my head spins !! WTF just happened ???"
This is the phase when our dear Y turns into a Dev.D, he just realized that he wants X back. And in Y's own language, "mann, I want her back, at any cost." But shes gone. And she aint comin back dude. This phase, howerver pankaj udasish it sounds like in Y's head, it is a matter of amusement for the rest of the world. This is because he transforms into a dukhi atma and starts crapping royally on gtalk status messages and social networking profiles.
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This was the final phase, as you guessed it,
No, no, no Y did not committ suicide, neither did X die. They lived. And, they are still alive. With time, Y got used to it and forgot all about X.
Sometimes makes me wonder, was it all worth it ??
(And for those of you who think I am Y in the story, please excuse me, I have my head at the right place.)
