Now, I wont say that I am really old or even qualified to comment on life or the way human relationships work, but this has always fascinated me. I have always tried to learn something from other people's happiness or misery. What I have noticed so far is that the way men and women think are quite different. Now now, I know that this is like saying that the sun rises from the east. But this blog is supposed to be about my thoughts, remember ? :-) . I am just trying to draw a lil picture here, for the various phases of a relationship :
For lack of better names, we will call the guy as Y and the girl as X. (And not the vice versa because the naming is vaguely related to chromosomes)
The Starting phase
The Y Dude really, really likes our chic X. He tries to woo this chic by all possible ways he knows. His task becomes simpler if his job or college or daily routine somehow enables him to meet his lady of dreams. Nevertheless, he feels good and kind of energized and efficient if the girl interacts as well. Now here is what is going on through their minds after lets say around one month of chatting :
Y - Wow, I really, really like this girl. She seems to be responding well to me. Could she be the one? Could there possibly be something more to this .... OMG, I see my "window".
X - Hmmm, I like this guy. Finally I guess I have made a friend who is different then the others. I like the time spend with him. I like this guy because, there is not a pressure of relationship involved in this and he is not expecting anything from me. He is mature enough to understand that we can stay Just friends.
At this point in time, that sadist freak which we call god, is sitting up there and laughing his heart off.
To be continued ....
(I have a job to do, you know ... I do not make money writing blogs)
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(I have a job to do, you know ... I do not make money writing blogs)
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Alright folks ... m back ....
Jesus christ guys, so many requests to complete this post ... Am I that good :-) ??
well Anyways ....
Guy gets the Girl Phase
So after sometime of lingering on and bhao khoing (typically 2 to three months) , X gives in to Y.
Yipee !!!???
Well, so one would think (devilish grin from the sadist introduced in the earlier phase).
All that hunky dowry and cheesy stuff starts, I do not need to bore you with the details. For the ones who are desperately in the need of some boredom, rent some 70s bollywood flick mann .. Now, this is a really important phase, because Y is full of expectations ... the pressure of expectations is huge. At times (most of the cases) this pressure coupled with the MALE EGO is sooooo disasterous, that this is enuff to destroy the relationship in about three months. But still they hold on to each other, just because they think its too soon to let go.
The Dev.D Phase
One fine day X packs her bags and leaves. Y is like alright, I don't need her, I can live without her too. About 7 days down the line, Y wakes up :
"whoa ... my head spins !! WTF just happened ???"
This is the phase when our dear Y turns into a Dev.D, he just realized that he wants X back. And in Y's own language, "mann, I want her back, at any cost." But shes gone. And she aint comin back dude. This phase, howerver pankaj udasish it sounds like in Y's head, it is a matter of amusement for the rest of the world. This is because he transforms into a dukhi atma and starts crapping royally on gtalk status messages and social networking profiles.
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This was the final phase, as you guessed it,
No, no, no Y did not committ suicide, neither did X die. They lived. And, they are still alive. With time, Y got used to it and forgot all about X.
Sometimes makes me wonder, was it all worth it ??
(And for those of you who think I am Y in the story, please excuse me, I have my head at the right place.)
6 comments:
A bit of stupid cover story revealing nothing but timeline of what happended but what exactly goes in the heart nd head of a person is no where to be seen.
What made u do things nd wat finally stops u from
nd i think i m mature enough to comment over this as my DOB permits and at the same time i have kept my heart open to things to experience variety of things ;)
and still keep moving in life.
Taraa taraaaaaa
so wait for my blog .....revealing nd healing all those how are into it and those who want to be in it
and last but not the least those who wanna go out of it .
Zulqar bhai ....
Thanks for reading my blog and also for your valuable comment.
Always keep in mind, when you read something without paying up, you do not exactly have the rights to use derogatory words in the comments.
Then again, I wrote this blog not from the point of view of the person who is going through all of this. The last line clearly states this. This is a third person's view who is fed up listening to the rants of Y.
If you think you are mature enuff and you basically are the Y of my story, well prove it Mr. Smarty pants
Dude I agree with ur last line.
Its not worth spending ones life behind some stupid gal and crib about that her after she left :)
@True Lies...
If you are blogging and want people to read your blog then please try to accept whatever comments you get. It is the free will of readers to like it or hate it. As a blogger, I believe that you shouldn't have used the language as "Always keep in mind" and "You do not have the rights", that creates a negative image of you and your blog, as you are not ready to accept criticism (which is a part of an author's life). I do not want to hurt your feelings and I know that you have some attitude but it was just a suggestion it is on you to follow it or not.
I know that you would not consider my advice. Please refer this link from one of the best bloggers of Indian Origin.
http://greatbong.net/2009/08/09/five-bits-of-unsolicited-advice-for-bloggers/
He has won many awards in blogging and his book is coming up in May.
@kaporegime : Thanks !!! You are are true friend. Thanks for understanding me ...
Thanks for acknowledging before hand that I would not consider your advice. But still, since you decided to write on, I have to respond.
I write what comes to my mind and I stand by what I said "Always keep in mind, when you read something without paying up, you do not exactly have the rights to use derogatory words in the comments."
And as always, since you know me u know this -> I care balls for what image my blog or my comments create for me.
Thanks again for the link, your time and your comments ..
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